Famed Irish author James Joyce once said, ďA manís errors are his portals of discovery.Ē So many times we forget that people are flawed, and most of us in many ways. It is ludicrous to expect perfection, but it is honorable to strive for the best in yourself.
Mistakes happen in every form of life Ė work, friendship, relationships, sport, education ... What we learn from these mistakes is the true way to measure character and growth.
Iím guilty of striving for perfection in many areas of my life. However, I have seen mixed results Ė both positive and negative. To clarify, seeking perfection is nothing to look down upon; rather, it comes as a risk or reward situation.
Picture a person who tries to be perfect in every aspect of life. This person wants to be the best son/daughter, the best sibling, the best friend, the best student, the best employee, the best everything. This type of person may succeed minimally, but ultimately this person will fail in most ways. No one can be the best or perfect in every aspect of life. Yet, so many times we try to be that most perfect person in everything.
This type of person will succeed in making others happy for a time, but it begins to take a toll on everyone involved. Striving for the unachievable disables happiness because it disables personal happiness. If you are not happy with yourself, chances are others are equally unhappy with you. There is an aura about happiness or unhappiness that affects all those involved.
Striving for perfection, then, is flawed. Donít ever strive for perfection. Instead strive for the best you can possibly be. That should be the motto for so many things. Perfection is unattainable.
Unfortunately, we strive for perfection far too often. Mistakes happen from this; thatís the positive aspect. From mistakes we learn and take a step closer the best person we can be. I believe that striving for perfection, though, can cause greater mistakes.
But, mistakes are an essential part of life. Guarding against mistakes will only prohibit a person from growth and maturity. For example, a child that is raised completely sheltered will never know how to handle the trials of everyday life. There are many different aspects that life will throw at a person; without learning through experience, the child will never handle those trials correctly.
The aphorism ďthe older the wiserĒ is true. We learn from our experiences, our mistakes. The important part is that from mistakes we learn to be the best person possible. Striving for a better me or you is honorable and expected. Instead of striving for perfection in all things we should instead strive for our own personal best. When mistakes happen, learn from them. When others make mistakes, forgive them and hope they learn from them. They happen to us all.