Like many other Valley residents I grew up eating home made tortillas with every meal. Itís a staple food for us Hispanic country folk.
Recently my parents came over to my house for dinner. I cooked the main course and my mom made tortillas. Because my stove is electric she wasnít used to it and burnt the first few tortillas she made. As we sat down to eat I wondered if anyone would complain about the burnt tortillas, but no one did.
Everyone sat down, piled food onto their plates and happily took one tortilla after another, with no complaints. It was so nice to see everyone content to be together, happy to share the stories of our day, and enjoying the food.
A few days later a friend sent me an email called burnt biscuits. It was a similar story about a mom who burnt the biscuits for dinner and no one complained. I love synchronicity (when one event coincides with another making both more meaningful). God has a way of really making his point, and in this case he really wanted me to notice a lesson through food.
Because we all love food and it is necessary for life, food can be a great teacher of many life lessons. In this case I learned how food can teach us to be understanding about any relationship. No one is perfect, there will always be times when someone burns the tortillas, breaks a valuable vase, says the wrong thing, forgets to do the dishes, is late for a date, or doesnít get your sense of humor. Whatever the difference may be, we can all try to be understanding about each otherís short comings.
That kind of understanding, acceptance, and unconditional love is what turns moments of potential anger into moments of grace, aggravating habits into cute quirks and makes a relationship last a lifetime.
A little burnt tortilla wonít hurt anyone, a little joke doesnít need to be taken out of context; a broken vase isnít the end of the world; eating a few minutes later doesnít have to ruin your whole night; doing dishes the next day wonít destroy the dishes; saying the wrong thing and putting your foot in your mouth doesnít mean itís a deal breaker.
Understanding and love is the foundation of any real, good, and lasting relationship be it between husband and wife, parent and child, brother and sister, or two friends.
My prayer for all of us is that we learn to be understanding and patient; that we learn to see things from otherís perspectives, and know that through it all God is with us giving us the grace we need to love unconditionally in all things.
Tori Vigil is an author, inspirational speaker, and reporter. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.