A few years ago after losing my grandmother, I remember thinking, “I wish I had written down all those things she used to tell me.” I didn’t want that to happen with my own mother, so I started writing down her words of wisdom and thought I’d share some with all my readers.
Some of what you are about to read is common sense and other things are a version of what we’ve all heard from our mothers at one point in our lives. Regardless of where it came from, they are words of advice we should never forget.
“Never judge a book by its cover.” This old saying proves itself true time and time again. It’s easy to judge people by first impressions, but you never know if someone was having a bad day, or what major event may have occurred in their life that temporarily altered their state of being.
“If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” This is as true for adults as it is for children. Sometimes we speak before we think and end up putting our foot in our mouth. When that happens you often regret what was said, so it’s better not to say anything at that moment and give yourself time to think.
“You can’t get married until you can make a round tortilla.” I never understood the importance of this one until I had my own daughters. Basically, my mother and my grandmother wanted to make sure that we knew how to cook for our family, how to bring the family together at the dinner table, how to care for and nurture mother-daughter relationships, and that we understood the importance of food in our culture and heritage. Food is vital to all life, food brings people together, food nurtures, food is the tie that binds all of humanity together.
“The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.” I think at some point in our lives we’ve all made the mistake of thinking that someone else has it better. Envy and jealousy can lead to all kinds of trouble. Though we do need to have some ambition and desire for better, more often than not, we need to be grateful for what we have right now. We need to take care of our own grass, instead of wanting what our neighbor has.
“When you’re down on your luck, that’s when you find out who your friends are.” Moms always want to look out for us. They know that when we have money and life looks great that we are surrounded by people, but when there is no money or illness hits us, that’s when we find out who our real friends are. Real friends call just to let you know they are thinking of you. Real friends offer truth, even if it hurts. Real friends love unconditionally. Real friends are the ones you want to hold onto for a lifetime. (Thank you Jessica, Jennifer, Cecilia, Ray, Jon and many others – for being real friends.)
Take time to remember all those words of wisdom your mother taught you.
Tori Vigil is an author, inspirational speaker and reporter. She can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org